Two Years, Two Lovers, One Grave: Paul O’Grady’s Final Wish Comes True at Last – Paul O’Grady’s Headstone Revealed – Fans Weep as Late Star Reunited with Lost Love Brendan
More than two years after the nation mourned the loss of beloved TV icon Paul O’Grady, his grave in Kent has finally been given a permanent headstone — marking the end of a long and emotional journey for his husband, Andre Portasio.
Paul, who passed away suddenly from cardiac arrhythmia in March 2023 at the age of 67, had wished to be buried alongside his former partner Brendan Murphy, who died of a brain tumour in 2005. For over two years, his resting place at St Rumwold’s Churchyard in Bonnington remained marked only by two wooden crosses and small ornaments.
This week, Andre took to Paul’s official Instagram account to share a touching update: “After two and a half years since Paul’s passing and a lengthy application process, we have finally placed the final design of his headstone at his grave.”
The headstone, crafted from dark grey stone, bears both Paul and Brendan’s names — a deeply symbolic tribute to the two men whose love endured decades. Beside the grave sits a figurine of Paul’s beloved dog Buster, the faithful companion who famously appeared alongside him on The Paul O’Grady Show.
Andre added in his post, “I miss him dearly every day, but I am grateful that his resting place is now complete. I hope he would be pleased with the final design.” The headstone also features one of Paul’s favourite quotes by philosopher Michel de Montaigne: “The greatest thing in the world is to know how to be one’s own self.”
Fans were moved to tears. One commented, “It just makes me weep with happiness that you included Brendan — such a beautiful and selfless gesture.” Another wrote, “It’s beautiful. I hope to visit one day.”
Andre, a former ballet dancer, continues to honour Paul’s legacy through tributes and memories. On each anniversary of his death, he reportedly watches old videos of the presenter — a small ritual to keep his husband’s spirit alive.
